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Why this happened to me ???

By on Dec 18, 2012 in Uncategorized | 8 comments

 Every event in life is neutral, and it is you and your response which gives meaning to the event. So, when you ask God, or some higher power, “Why did this terrible event happen to me?” you probably perceive the “event” as a negative one.


When you lose a loved one to death  or have a child facing seemingly very difficult and tough challenges, it is very difficult to step back, be objective, and see the ultimate good that may result from the situation. Instead, the world feels as if it is crashing down without relief in sight. And, be assured, no one expects a different response from you at the inception of your loss.


You might also sit and wonder, since you feel you have led a “good” life, why “bad” things are happening to you. Consider the thought that God, by whatever name you call Him, is not a vengeful being. He did not pick you out from the masses so that you should suffer nor does he want you to feel forever powerless.


If you are able to adjust your perspective and try to look at every event, both good and bad, as an opportunity for growth, perhaps you can start to make sense of the situation in which you may find yourself. In your rational mind, you know that the event has already taken place, and it is impossible to go back and change the outcome. There are things that you can do, though. Instead of just reacting, you hold in your hands the ability to decide how you will respond to the situation and live your life from that moment onward.


Even if you are still caught up in a maelstrom of negativity, open your mind for a few moments and try to figure out what lessons can be learned from the events that surround you. It is either an opportunity to learn or to teach a valuable lesson. For example, in the instance of a child losing a parent, you are given the opportunity to be a strong role model. One way in which you may reclaim your power is by showing your child, by example, how to recover from adversity through hard work and a pro-active attitude. 


I believe the reason so-called bad thing happen to good people is that these people are the ones who have the ability to turn a negative situation into a positive one. They have the inner strength and resources to persevere; to look for answers and solutions; and to help repair the world in both small and large ways.


There are so many instances in which the parents of a child who has been kidnapped, abused, had physical disabilities to overcome, sometimes even loss of there child etc. Have taken the situation and turned it into a positive experience. After these parents have learned all their lessons, they turn around and put their hand out to help the next person who may find himself in similar circumstances. Foundations are created; research facilities are built; the world at large becomes more informed; and people find goodness and compassion in their souls to reach out to others.

No one wants to encounter adversity, but it is a precious few who are not touched by some sort of loss. When it is your turn, by changing your perspective a couple of degrees to the positive, you can change your life and the world around you!


Sejal Desai 

    8 Comments

  1. Hi Sejal, At first let me congratulate you for this wonderful prognosis. I find it deeply intriguing and wonderfully penned. The same topic was under discussion and His Divine grace Radhanath Swami from Iskcon Chowpathy has giving out a wonderful lecture critically analysing Harold Klusners book “Why bad things happen to good people”. You should try to listen to these in Iskcondesiretree.net blog. Of course these have a spiritual turn and deeper understanding of life, which may not be in tandem with modern science. However all of life’s problem can never be solved with science and technology alone for these are mere conduit for peacefully progressing in the journey of life and realizing the ultimate goal of life which is self realization.

    Sudha

    December 18, 2012

  2. Very deep and true thoughts sejal.

    Bhavini

    December 18, 2012

  3. Thank you Sudha, I appreciate your valuable feedback!! I will surely look at the links given by you and I am looking forward to have lot more explorations with you and with your curiosity about self realization. Love sejal

    Sejal Desai

    December 18, 2012

  4. Thank you bhavini ,and I am really thank ful to you for reading my every blogs and giving me your feedback.
    Love
    Sejal

    Sejal Desai

    December 18, 2012

  5. Sejal, HATS off to you ….. for being you.

    Not sure what I can say after reading such a thoughtful point and and more importantly the rational of why this might be happening too.

    Really nice to read and keep it coming …..

    Arun

    Arun Berry

    December 20, 2012

  6. I believe the reason so-called bad thing happen to good people is that these people are the ones who have the ability to turn a negative situation into a positive one. They have the inner strength and resources to persevere; to look for answers and solutions; and to help repair the world in both small and large ways………….that is very very true…… very nice n well written… :)

    Pallavi Kanakiya

    December 29, 2012

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