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What is a real friend?

By on Dec 28, 2011 in Uncategorized | 4 comments

For most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship, is not the same as having a real friend.
If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well known or well liked, most of your relationships will be shallow. They will come and go like a butterfly, flitting here and there without any real purpose or substance.
The need to be liked is very powerful. But it is often a shallow victory to be considered with the ‘in crowd’. Seeking friendship for such a superficial reason will only end up breaking your heart or frustrating you to no end.
Real friendship is actually extremely rare. If I can be so bold to say, if you could have three real friends in your lifetime, you are a very fortunate person. The reason why true friendship is so rare is because of the depth of commitment necessary to be a true or real friend.
Friendship isn’t a separate relationship. You don’t have husband, wife, mom, dad, brothers, sisters, cousins, neighbours, co-workers, peers, and then friends. Friendship is the ultimate pinnacle of any other type of relationship. When your wife becomes your friend, or when your husband becomes your friend, or when a parent can become a friend then it has reached the highest evolution possible within that relationship.
 True friendship is where you are willing to sacrifice important things for that friendship. When someone is willing to sacrifice a dream, or a hope, or something very important to their life for you and get nothing in return, you may have found a real friend.
Let me ask you, are you willing to sacrifice your popularity, the attention of others, your career, your ambitions, your needs, or your wants for anyone? If not, then you probably have no one who you consider a real friend.
 Do you have anyone that you’re willing to do that for? Is there anyone willing to do that for you?
That is what a true friend is.
It is a very rare, very special, and incredibly valuable thing.
Sejal Desai


  1. super like :) waiting for many more blogs to come .. goodluck !!!


    December 28, 2011

  2. Like Like!! 😀


    December 28, 2011

  3. Friends are the assets of your life ! it is valuable so we should keep them safely!
    As god has given us many relations thru out life which we are accepting weather we like it or no…. but true friendship is our own creation with humans! so we need to preserve it!!!

    Toral Shah

    December 28, 2011

  4. Too good,super like…,as u said we find many friends on the journey of our life but it is very difficult to find the real ones & to find a real friend, first we have to be ready to sacrifice things & be a real friend.wishing all the best to all readers to find minimum three real friends on there journey called life.

    parag mehta

    December 28, 2011

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